These are only a few ways to explore real intimacy.
How do you create a loving connection in your relationship?
It took years for me to realize a relationship is not a romance movie.
At some point in our lives, we may believe that love should be like the kind of romance we see portrayed in films, television, and novels.
I thought, marry a prince—but a prince who is also human, who has faults and issues just like every person, no matter how wonderful he is.This kind of romantic story can only work when there is an absence of the lover.Sometimes, they have to die in the end in order for their love to fit into this romantic view.This allows you to continue the romantic trance, creating drama and avoiding real intimacy.If you become aware of what you fear about intimacy, you’ll have a better sense of why you’re fighting—and likely will fight far less.By feeling safe and secure to be on your own within the framework of relationship, you will feel more complete, happy, and whole.Some couples create separateness by fighting and then making up over and over again.This happiness usually includes the desire to be close to someone in a loving way.To create real intimacy, get in touch with the spaciousness of your heart and bring awareness to what is good within you.“We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.” -~Sam Keen Before I married my wonderful husband, I dated a lot of men.For most of my 20s (and even my early 30s) I had a perfect fairy-ideal of what romantic love was, probably because I was an actress and loved drama back then.