I know personally I tend to stop replying to messages when I get depressed, and it’s not because I don’t like the person who’s messaging me.
Equally possible though, is that they haven’t replied because they’re simply not interested. It might be tempting to suggest that these kinds of social dynamics simply don’t merit this much thought – an emotionally healthy person will simply forget about it till the next time they consider messaging a person.
All you need to say in writing is a couple specific things about their profile, respond to things they message you (assuming they’ve written to you), and ask a few questions (see #3).
After I worked for Evan, daters began asking me questions beyond the profile-writing stage, like message etiquette, how fast they’re supposed to write someone back, and what they’re supposed to say.
Here’s some of those online what-the-heck-do-I-write-in-a message dating dilemmas I hear about and a few key reminders.
Anyone can say they dance or read, but what kind of dancing and what kind of books?
Here’s an example straight from a guy's Ok Cupid profile: “I recently finished Augusten Burroughs’ Sellevision and just cracked open Freedom by Jonathan Franzen.