I’m also not trying to create a stereotype about typical Turkish men.These are simply my experiences in my small city outside of Istanbul.That being said, here are three things I have learned about typical Turkish men: If you are casually asked to have coffee or tea, and politely decline, that may stop them—for a few minutes.Even if you haven’t tried to give them extra attention, some take even simple eye contact, a small laugh at a joke, or just the fact that you are alive as an acceptance to their marriage proposal.Once they’ve been shot down they don’t attempt again.
At first encounter you will be charmed, wooed, and certainly enchanted by his “going-out-of-their-way” hospitality and attention. Some men have ulterior motives, and some will definitely get you into trouble.While Turkish women are extremely beautiful and sophisticated, they are not particularly interested in Westerners, especially the ones who are in Istanbul for a few days only.Turkish girls are generally tall, soft-spoken, with a beauty that resembles that of Russian girls, only with brown hairs. On the contrary, you will see them drink and smoke as much as the guys. If you are going out hoping to meet someone, I would advise visiting the bars and clubs popular with foreign students and tourists, an easier target I believe.Here it is all about being continually conscious about what others are thinking, both if they see you alone with someone, or if a guy is asking you to hang out.At the same time, typical Turkish men are not always to blame.Now in America and in the UK, jealousy is a green monster that most people have a strong distaste for.Here in Turkey, if you are not jealous of whom your partner speaks to, looks at, or hangs out with, it is the equivalent of raising a small flag that states, “I don’t love him/her.” It also doesn’t matter how many times you try and explain the cultural difference—they won’t change their minds.If you say no to them once, they will ask again, or they will lie low until you notice them again.To me this was so bizarre because in the States most men get anxious even asking a girl out (kudos to those who have the courage to take that risk).I had heard stories of getting lots of extra attention from men if you were naturally blonde or red-headed, but that seemed normal since those are very distinct foreign looks.Nonetheless, I had a rude awakening about the characteristics of typical Turkish men within the first month I lived in Turkey.