When we have a fear or belief within us, our psyche will try to find proof to back up how we feel, no matter how destructive that thought is.
I remember times when I would be at work doing what needed to be done and G-chatting all day long with a guy I was seeing.You feel vulnerable, you feel guarded, you’re nervous…and you don’t quite trust that this one will be different than the rest.You text him, "Hey, did you still want to get together and do something tonight? Personally, I say don't even text him in the first place. Ladies, you don't need to be throwing yourself at guys. So trust me when I say if a guy wants you, he'll come after you. Because in the end, you don't want to be stuck with an assh*le who doesn't treat you as his number one.She really wants to text him, because she likes him and wants to talk to him, but she doesn’t want to be the initiator so instead, she uses restraint and waits/hopes for him to text her, and then hits the panic button when he doesn’t. A woman might get upset if she’s having a cute, banter type of back and forth with a guy and then he just stops responding but this really means nothing!To her, going back and forth and being all cute and flirty was their way of connecting, but to him the conversation wasn’t moving toward anything, and he just didn’t see a need to respond further.What a lot of women have a hard time understanding about men is the way they operate when they’re working on something.Men typically get absorbed in whatever task is at hand, and when they’re in that mode, nothing else exists outside of it.For instance, if you think no one likes you, you will hone in on people not being nice to you and will disregard all the signs that people do like you.Liking a guy is scary, especially when the relationship is in the early stages and you’re not quite sure where he stands or if he’s on the same page as you.